When I was 22 and freshly married, I went through a months-long period of unemployment, which led to a period of somewhat severe depression. I still remember my mother-in-law telling me that it was natural for me to feel down, especially since most men are defined by their profession.
Think about this for a moment.
What is the first question that you hear from someone if you meet them for the first time at a party or gathering?
They aren't asking what you do for fun, or what you do in your free time. They want to know what you do FOR A LIVING.
I have often wanted to come up with some creative replies, which could lead to an evening of very interesting conversation, such as:
"I am a crocodile wrangler."
"I write fortune cookies. Would you like to hear yours?"
"I am a blacksmith/chimney sweep."
"I am a carnival freak."
Instead, I reply with the same thing that I have for the past 12+ years: "I am a REALTOR." or "I sell houses." These days, this leads to some follow-up questions, more so than ever before.
The unvarnished truth is that the past couple of years have been more challenging than I could have imagined. Loan products and guidelines have changed dramatically, resulting in the loss of a big chunk of the viable market. The national economy is probably at the worst point in my adult life. New appraisal rules have added yet another hurdle. I am not making as much money as I used to, and I doubt that most of you reading this are, either, although I certainly don't want to be presumptuous.
With that in mind, I have been evaluating things quite a bit lately. While I am not looking to leave the real estate business, I am no longer defined by my profession alone. Unlike the lean times back in 1993, I have many other facets:
I am a follower of Christ. I am heavily involved in starting a new church as we speak.
I am a devoted husband to my beautiful wife of over 16 years. I am very happy that we found each other.
I am the father of four beautiful, intelligent children. Their talents and personalities astound me sometimes.
I am a good son. Ask my mom - she'll agree.
I am a writer. Blogging has led to many other writing opportunities, including the possibility of an upcoming book via a New York publisher.
I am a loyal and terrific friend. Just ask anyone who knows me. :)
I host an online radio show. Feel free to check it out sometime: http://budurl.com/bestofjckc
I am happy. Contentment is way more important to me than earning the maximum income, frankly.
Forgive me if this post seems a little self-indulgent. I will readily admit that writing this helps me in a Stuart Smalley daily affirmation kind of way ("Doggone it, people like me!").
Thanks for reading!